Serious Mom Guilt

Well hellloooo! Life is starting to get super busy & super crazy all at once. When I turned the big 3-0 this year, my goal was to live my best life. I said this year would be my best year yet and then boom my life took off. I received a promotion on my job, started feeling like a boss mom and then the balancing act begun.

First, I was working a little later and it meant getting dinner started later. Okay, cool. I can handle that. Now, I’m looking up crock pot dinners on Pinterest because by the time I get home on some days, my kids are snoring. I’m honestly starting to rethink this whole boss mom life. We often want the reward but forget about all of the hard work and sacrifice it takes to get it.

What do you do when you are trying to be your best self AND be the best mom ever?? Is it possible to be both? Do I have to choose? Should I have to choose? I mean when you have kids does that mean that your hopes and dreams are on hold while you raise them? If I were a man, would I even have to ask myself these questions? Seriously, society puts so much pressure on women to drop everything to become the perfect mother and wife, and I’m having a hard time figuring this thing out.

So, what do I do now? Quit my job? Find a “regular” job? I mean, there is absolutely nothing regular about me. I tried it, I just can’t do it. I want my children to be proud of me AND I want to be proud of myself. Is that too much to ask? I’m on this journey to figure out how to have the best of both worlds. Balance and fulfillment. I promise I will keep you updated because I know some of you are on this journey with me. Hang in there mama, we got this!

XOXO,

Fallon

2 Replies to “Serious Mom Guilt”

  1. Fallon, I recall having the same struggle. No one can tell you what will work best for you; but, other women in your village can share their journeys with you. Maybe all their journeys combined can help you figure it out.

    For me I worked while my children were young in an environment that certainly didn’t make me a boss mom, but it allowed me to be with my children when school was out. Although the job wasn’t my dream job, it was one that kept me in the mix, taught me life lessons, and allowed me to meet soooo many people. Sure I could have made more, been promoted more in other environments, but having those years with kids was AMAZING. Once the teenage years came, I jumped back into the boss world. Yes, it’s true that starting over after 40 is hard! It was harder to get the boss job over the other 30 year old applicants, it was harder for my family to adjust, I felt guilty, confused, selfish, crazy and inspired all at the same time.
    Thankful, I had the support to make the transition. My entire family evolved in the transition. I love where we are now and wouldn’t trade my experience for any corner office or fat 401k.

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    1. Bridget,
      Thank you so much for all of your sound feedback. The last 6 months for me have been very difficult. I accepted a management position with Aramark, and I have been pretty much working every weekend and 2-3 nights per week. It’s too much. I’m having a hard time balancing home life and work life, that’s why I reached out to you about a career change. I’m praying for a job I love with a schedule that will allow me to pick my kids up everyday and be off on weekends. You are so right about your inner circle making a huge difference in your success or failure as a working mom. I have not had much support which makes this even tougher. People make comments that I don’t think they realize how bad it hurts me when they question my motherhood because of my work schedule. I’m praying and believing that it will all work out.

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